What happens to life after college? For so many of us it’s a time where we don’t know exactly where we are going or heading. Friends get engaged, married, and pregnant while we wonder if life is passing us by faster than we thought. We worry about finding jobs and wonder where to go in our careers once we do find that first gig. In short, the Quarterlife crisis is where we stop being kids and start being grown up.
For the next few days I’ll be hosting different perspectives on our post-college lives because even though we maybe going through times of personal growth and exploration- we aren’t doing it alone.
Today’s post is from the DC Princess Q over at PQ Nation. She’s a good friend of mine here in The District and unlike a lot of us, has a post-college identity crisis while still trying to finish school.
I feel like a poser.
What happens to life after college? I wouldn’t know because I’m still in college while my friends have graduated and some have even finished their Master’s.
I lost my way. My quarter-life crisis hit me at 20 and it’s been going on since. I began college with the hopes of moving onto law school and making the most of my scholarship. 7 years later, I transferred out of there to a different school and a different major.
In the last 5 years, I was diagnosed with “Should’ve-Could’ve-Would’ve” syndrome. It took over my everyday life until I couldn’t think clearly. I was stuck in a vicious cycle, rolling away from the future I needed to create for myself.
Last year, I jumped out of the hamster wheel and starting running forward.
I found the cure for the “Should’ve-Could’ve-Would’ve” syndrome.
Just do it.
Sounds simple yet so complicated, doesn’t it?
Our generation wants fast results because nothing surrounding our everyday life remains in place for too long. Technology, jobs, friends and sometimes, location. We’re always expected to move forward nonstop but still have a plan.
Follow that plan. Don’t you dare look around. Keep walking forward.
If you miss a step, everything else will fall apart like dominoes.
It’s scary to wander off path.
There are expectations, societal standards and every stigma that comes with not having a degree. I stick out like a sore thumb.
“No, I’m still in school. For my BA. No, I never lived in a dorm. I just moved out of my parents’ house at 24. No, I…I mean…I’m working on it. Uh…huh.”
It’s a scary world out there. Scary to take risks. Scary to live. Scary to stick out.
You have to just do it.
I certainly am.
I know who I am and who I want to be. Does it fit other people’s expectations? Probably not.
It doesn’t matter because I’ll always be the overachieving, procrastinating, taking-on-too-much-at-once spazz that will never stop moving forward now that I escaped the hamster wheel of my fears..