What happens to life after college? For so many of us it’s a time where we don’t know exactly where we are going or heading. Friends get engaged, married, and pregnant while we wonder if life is passing us by faster than we thought. We worry about finding jobs and wonder where to go in our careers once we do find that first gig. In short, the Quarterlife crisis is where we stop being kids and start being grown up.
For the next few days I’ll be hosting different perspectives on our post-college lives because even though we maybe going through times of personal growth and exploration- we aren’t doing it alone.
In celebration of my 1000th blog post I continue the Quarterlife Crisis series with the idea of the fast starter- and why I hear a clock ticking at 25.
When was your first kiss? What was it like? Maybe it was at the end of a date or an awkward game played in a basement with other young teenagers. I bet you were somewhere under the age of 16- a normal range for most people right? Perhaps something that happened in middle school or in high school?
I was 18. And I am very ambivalent about it.
You can read about how it went down but there was nothing wrong about the actual moment- just when it happened.
Later than the typical person.
When it comes to women and dating I feel behind the eight ball. If it wasn’t for Becky and that time on the lake I could of graduated high school and never been kissed. That would of spelled death for a young awkward teenager like me.
My high school years were too much about extra-curriculars and not about dating girls. How would I survive in college if I didn’t know my way around women?
Somehow I did survive college. I caught up quick. However dating girls in college and dating girls in real life are two totally different games- and I graduated college without having once changed my relationship status on Facebook.
Sure a lot of people out there are single but at least they probably have had a girlfriend/boyfriend at one point in their life.
Last night I watched the film Paper Heart and couldn’t help but wonder if I am like Charlyne Yi’s character- an innocent young adult who doesn’t know what it is like to love .
There are others out there that have had better luck than me. You know these folks: the person who has been dating the high school/college sweetheart all throughout school and shortly got married before 25 and now own a house. These are the fast starters- those that speed through life. I discovered the term while reading Brazen Careerist and instantly clung on to it.
Sure Gen-Y is waiting longer to marry (if they decide to at all), but for me those that are the exception to the rule, the fast starters, are constant reminders that while some off and running- I don’t even have my shoes on yet.
When I think about my dating life I feel the pressure of trying to catch-up on my dating experience. Am I looking for a wife and family now? Definitely not- but sometimes I wish I was a bit more experienced in the game than I am now.
I am 26 and I never had a girlfriend. There are so many great things I have done with my blogging career, my professional career, even my theatre career yet I feel like I haven’t even started when I think about my dating life.
As my co-worker/friend Meggiepoo would say, “The pity party ended last night.” I’m believe that like with everything else in my life, I can get what I want through hard work and dedication.
However love is one of those games that is more about serendipity than effort.
Maybe I’d feel better if I didn’t feel like the person running at the rear of the pack.
Do you know a fast starter in life? How has it changed your Quarterlife Crisis?